Over what sometimes seems to be distinctly different lifetimes, our story has taken detours and come back together three times over 25 years. We regularly experience the sensation of memory called déjà vu. It is a impression that affects both the head and heart, triggered by many things in our everyday lives. For most people, it happens in specific places or when they hear a certain song. While that is true for us too, many times, things unique to only the experiences we’ve shared together are the source of the peculiar yet beautiful flashes of déjà vu. We hold this as proof of the depth and divine nature of our relationship—a spiritual connection with the supernatural ability to bridge time, space, and memory.
In Chapter 4 of Divine Detours to Destiny, we discuss navigating these moments like deciphering a cryptic code or secret language. There were times in the early stages of reconnection when date night felt like revisiting the past. We treated the familiar sparks as invitations to explore deeper meanings in our past experiences and to talk about future dreams and aspirations.
While reliving the past can be fun, it can also bring up painful memories and present challenges. In those instances, we worked on healing together by exploring the resurfacing patterns and addressing the fears and concerns they brought up. The next time you experience déjà vu, take a minute to savor the good and reflect on what anything unpleasant might mean for you today. Focus on how you can use this awareness to learn and grow stronger.
“In our narrative, certain déjà vu moments turned out to be literal signs from God—license plates, billboards, songs, social media posts, commercials, TV shows, movies, sermons, and scriptures confirming our reestablished relationship and the next steps on our path.” – Divine Detours to Destiny
Having experienced the type of divine detours detailed in our book, we would not dare attribute these moments to coincidence. Dismissed by many as a simple memory glitch, we began to view the phenomenon of déjà vu as guidance on our divinely designed journey and reminders of God’s presence in our lives and relationship. Every detour in life is perfectly planned and timed, as the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:11: “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”
By pausing to reflect when déjà vu occurs, we can strengthen our connection with God and others. We also gain clarity of purpose and insight into the next steps on our journey. Given the perspective that there is no such thing as coincidence, what may otherwise seem mundane and ordinary can take on extraordinary significance. In the context of déjà vu, remain open to the idea that lessons and messages can be found all around you every day. If you pay attention, sometimes the answers to your prayers are in plain sight, literally spelled out right in front of you.